Is your body telling tales on you?

We all know that ‘gut feeling’ when we meet someone for the first time – it tells us whether this is our kind of person or not…although we don’t always know why.

Our body language gives out messages that we may not be aware of – sometimes betraying us and the messages that we actually want to be send out. d

Imagine you are a hedgehog…what do you do when you feel threatened or under attack? Like a hedgehog, if we feel vulnerable for any reason we will do our best to make ourselves small and often cross our arms to protect our vital organs. e

 

Being aware of the signals our body is sending on our behalf allows us to choose whether we go with it or override it and make a conscious change.

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With Body Language you can ‘fake it til you make it’…or rather…’fake it til you become it’.  Power, authority and confidence will help you get where you want to be…

Find out more about how to use your body language to get what you want by joining us at our next Communicating with Impact training course.

Blog Written by Bright*Star Facilitator Kerry Saberton

Ian Moir, Aztech Solutions, receiving his brand new ipad from Kerry Saberton, Business Development Manager at Bright*Star Training

Kerry has been a facilitator and organisational development consultant for over 18 years. During her career in customer service, sales and management, Kerry gained a wide range of experience to draw upon. She has built and developed teams to meet core objectives in both sales and customer service and believes the key to success is harmony and communication. She has also built and run her own companies.

Are you tuned into your ‘X Factor’?

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When you consider your behaviour at work, would you say you have a strong ‘executive presence’ or the ‘x factor’?  How would you rate yourself in terms of how you project a sense of authority, confidence, authenticity, and poise in your daily interactions?

One of the ways to assess your ‘x factor’ is to observe how often tuned into the present moment or preoccupied with future or past events.  Are you typically aware or unaware of what you’re feeling, seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting and intuiting?  As a leader, you do have ‘big picture’ responsibilities.  Future planning is often critical for success, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your leadership presence.  Presence is that quality of being awake and aware sensorially in each moment.  Presence gives you a quality of aliveness and vitality which is magnetic and supports you in being more influential and effective in all your interactions.

With practice, you can develop your ‘x factor’ or ‘executive presence’. You can cultivate your sensory awareness in such a way that you exude a sense of vitality and energy.  With intentional practice, you will also begin to notice an increase in clarity, focus, improved memory, creativity and a greater ease in negotiating and resolving conflicts.

Here’s a simple exercise to begin cultivating your presence today as you go about your regular activities: At each of your meals and/or tea breaks (or whatever times are convenient for you to remember) , ask yourself, these sensorial questions:

What am I seeing now?  Notice around you colours, shapes, objects, people, etc.

What sounds am I hearing now?  Notice the whirr of a computer, traffic noises, telephone ringing, etc.

What do I feel now physically?  Notice the chair beneath you, the temperature of the room, your feet on the floor, your breath, heartbeat, etc.

What do you smell now?  Notice any smells around you, e.g. coffee, toothpaste, breath mint, food, etc.

What’s my intuition telling me now?  Notice what your ‘sixth sense’ is telling you. Do you have a sense of ‘rightness’ or ‘wrongness’ about a particular situation, agreement, plan, etc.?

As you continue this practice,  even for just a few times a day,  you may notice a sense of peace and clarity coming into your awareness more frequently. By activating your ‘presence’ or six senses,  you are developing your ‘x factor’, that power which transcends your rational, logical mind.

Leadership presence is not an inborn gift for everyone.   It can be cultivated through practising a set of learnable skills and habits.  If you’d like to dive deeper into developing your ‘x factor’ this year, I invite you to contact me to discuss the possibility of  designing a program for you or your team.  There are various options ranging from private coaching to group training to keynote presentations.

Here’s to your growth and development in 2016!

Written by Bright*Star Facilitator Sally Mabelle

If you’d like to develop your ‘leadership presence’, join Sally’s new Bright*Star course in 2016:

‘Building Your Executive Voice and Presence’

29th February or 19 August in Wellington or in Auckland on 11th May.

http://www.brightstar.co.nz/training/building-your-executive-voice-and-presence

Sally Mabelle, M.Ed, B.A hons, has 20+ years’ experience as a ‘Voice of Leadership’ specialist. She combines her professional background in Communication, Education, and Psychology with her extensive stage experience in her courses. She has honed essential skills in voice projection, emotional connection and physical presence and is an award-winning inspirational speaker.

Do You Have The Leadership Presence You’ll Need in 2016?

As you wind down, wrap up and reflect on your year, how have you fared in the intangible ‘x factor’ department?  In other words, how have you developed and expressed your  ‘leadership presence’?

Leadership presence is that quality of poise and perspective which supports you to be more awake, aware, and influential and includes a type of ‘stage presence’ and ‘voice of authority’ which allows you to command attention whenever you speak.  Psychological Science Journal  published a pioneering study this year on a key aspect of leadership presence: your voice.  The study found that when you feel more powerful,  your voice changes in predictable ways.   It becomes more dynamic in loudness, less variable in pitch and has more intensity.   This study supports the fact that you can dramatically improve your confidence, personal impact,  and influence through voice coaching.

Many business and political leaders are well aware of the benefits of presence and voice coaching.  Here’s a short video clip of Margaret Thatcher’s  voice ‘before’ and ‘after’ coaching – the difference in her authoritative presentation is dramatic.  https://www.awesomestories.com/asset/view/Margaret-Thatcher-Voice-Before-and-After-Lessons You can see that she slows down her speech and speaks with more articulation and definitiveness.  Leadership presence is not an inborn gift for most of us.   It is cultivated through coaching and involves a set of learnable skills.

If you’d like to develop your ‘leadership presence’, I invite you to join me on the new Bright*Star course in 2016:

‘Building Your Executive Voice and Presence’

29th February or 19 August in Wellington or in Auckland on 11th May.

http://www.brightstar.co.nz/training/building-your-executive-voice-and-presence

Blog written for Bright*Star Training by Sally Mabelle

Sally Mabelle, M.Ed, B.A hons, has 20+ years’ experience as a ‘Voice of Leadership’ specialist. She combines her professional background in Communication, Education, and Psychology with her extensive stage experience in her courses. She has honed essential skills in voice projection, emotional connection and physical presence and is an award-winning inspirational speaker.

How do you solve a problem like…a technical professional

If I am trying to get the bearing off an axle and have a bearing puller it only takes me a few minutes.  If I don’t have a bearing puller it can take me all day (with lots of cursing on the way).  It is all about having the right tools. 
 
Over the past 40 years I have worked closely with technical managers who are looking to improve the way their teams operate or are struggling to handle a challenging performance problem.  In many cases the results fall short simply because the manager didn’t have the right tools. 
 
People Management Skills for Technical Professionals is designed to provide tools for managing behaviour and dealing with issues.  It explains the psychology of why people behave the way they do and provides practical actions that can help a manager to achieve maximum results for the least amount of effort.  As one manager commented “Most courses I have been on tell me what I should be doing but this is the first one that helped me to understand why and taught me how to do it.”
 
(And don’t ask me how I know about getting bearings off axles – without a bearing puller!)

5 Minutes with Chantal – Mindfulness in action

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Chantal Hofstee, registered Clinical Psychologist

Researching new management trends we came across Chantal Hofstee’s work and we immediately realised the power of her message.

Now that her Mindfulness in Business  course is part of Bright*Star training calendar, it’s time to have a chat with Chantal and find out more about mindfulness and its importance in modern business world.

Chantal, why would businesses like Goldman Sachs, Deutsche Bank, Google and Apple be interested in Mindfulness?

“The answer is simple. Mindfulness retrains your brain to stress less and achieve more. We all know that stress is unhealthy and causes problems. Stress related issues such as health issues, reduced productivity and negative office dynamics are not only costly, they are also very common problems for most businesses.”

How does mindfulness work in practice?

“A fast body of research now shows that Mindfulness practice is one of the best ways to combat stress. Mindfulness practice is easy, healthy and after some initial training it is free of costs.

Research shows that Mindfulness practices increases your health and happiness. But there is more, Mindfulness practice does not only make you healthier and happier, it also makes you more creative, innovative, flexible, efficient and productive.

It improves problem solving skills, social connection and self esteem. All of these are essential factors when it comes to optimising work performance and achieving great outcomes.”

What are the benefits of mindfulness training?

“The Mindfulness in business training has two main benefits:

1.  It will make you enjoy your work and every day life more

2. It will teach you simple, effective techniques that allow you to manage stress better and therefore increase you productivity, efficiency, innovation and (work) relationships.”

Do you want to know about Mindfulness? Join Chantal’s training course Mindfulness in Business  today!